We have just reached 6 months being married and I thought it would be a good idea to share some insights of the married life with you all. First and foremost I still don’t think it has fully registered in my head that I am married. When I think of myself as a wife, I picture myself older, mature and an adult – currently I don’t feel any of those things. I don’t feel old or an adult, I don’t feel grown up enough to be someones wife!
Once you take the vows, immediately after everything becomes us/we/ours/you two. It’s never just you or him, it’s now US. When people invite us to something it’s you two not you + himself. While this sounds funny because we were still both being invited together to everything beforehand, now it’s a JOINT decision to go to those things. It feels strange, now we are a single unit.
When people call you Mrs. or by your married name, you’re like who?! No joke, I just don’t register it – I still don’t recognize it. I’m wondering how long it will take for it to properly sink in.
While I am on the subject of name change….. Nightmare. I will be writing a whole post about it (yes, there’s enough to do to write a completely separate post about it). As with everything “legal” or “government concerned” Ireland takes forever and you need a document upon document for everything. You’d swear you are trying to completely change your identity to someone else. It’s an ordeal like no other and quite costly too (perhaps because I’m foreign and need to do it both here and in Poland).
Lastly, the woman becomes the ultimate decision maker and that’s the major factor that makes me feel that I am at least slightly married. You become this book of knowledge where in an ideal world you should know the answers to all the questions. You know that feeling even when you grow up that if you ask your mam and she says its okay then it’s really okay? That becomes you. You become the mam, that feeling of comfort and believe me many times you will have to wing it and hope for the best.
To all my newlywed bombshells, what has been your experience so far? What made you feel really married at first? I’d love to hear your stories, as I am really curious what will eventually make me feel like a wife.
As you can see in this post I’ve shared some of our unseen wedding photographs. I hope you guys like them.